July 25, 2013
Where You’re Most Likely To Find Unhappiness And How To Avoid It
Wouldn’t life be wonderful if we were all happy all the time? Of course, none of us live in this imaginary utopia for real. There are plenty of times when we must face periods of unhappiness. Of course, for some of us, it seems that we face more than our fair share of unhappiness. It can come from many sources and last for prolonged periods of time. So how can we avoid the misery life sometimes likes to throw at us? While it is impossible to avoid feeling blue from time to time, here are some tips to avoid it coming from certain areas of your life:
At Work
All of us have had that bad day at work when we’re left in tears and wanting to quit. It comes with the territory. Most of the time it passes, you have the weekend, and it’s all better on Monday. However, some people can become really miserable in their jobs. It might be a pushy boss or an annoying colleague that gets you down. Perhaps it’s the
poor pay or lack of recognition in your role? The trick is to identify what is making you unhappy and act to put it right.
Usually, talking to the people that are bothering you is the best approach. Try to find some common ground, and renew your ways of working together. Tensions build when things are ignored. And a work dynamic often changes, so you don’t want to give them the silent treatment. If your role isn’t for you, speak to your line manager about moving to a different department or taking on other responsibilities. Job satisfaction is as important to them as it is to you.
On Your Commute
There is often nothing more tedious, boring and stressful than the commute to and from work. If it’s getting you down, then change it for a while. Instead of driving, try cycling or taking the bus. If you don’t like the crowded train carriages, consider staying in town overnight once or twice a week to avoid it. Don’t forget, you can always ask to work from home. Many employers are open to this, so ask your line manager.
Moving house is a big thing to do to avoid a commute. But if all that traveling is really bothering you, it could be a good option. Speak to your family and see how they feel.
In The News
The news does tend to be full of doom and gloom. If it’s getting you down to hear all the horror stories that are being reported, try to cut down how much coverage you access. Just read the news once a day. And pick a time of the day when you can immediately go and do something more positive after.
Making a positive difference in your community and encouraging others to do the same could be just the sort of good news your local rag will love to cover.
On Your Credit Card Bill
Financial difficulties are a huge source of stress for many of us. All the anxiety about getting bills paid and covering your debts can quickly lead to depression. If you’re unhappy about your financial situation, it’s time to take back control. Face it head on by detailing every expense you have each month. Now you can start crossing off the non-essentials so you can plan a realistic household budget. This shows you exactly what you have, what you spend, and what more you can afford.
Social Circles
Why is it that so-called friends can be so mean? Social media seems to have exacerbated the problem. Friends can be annoying, but when they’re offensive, it can get you down. Sometimes they don’t even realize that they’re hurting you. If your inbox is getting slammed by a friend’s posts on FaceBook, it can be very tempting to unfriend them. You can
learn about it at The Alternative Daily to find out what the repercussions of this might be.
At the end of the day, if the people in your life are making you feel bad about yourself, it’s best to distance yourself from them.
Fill your life with people that have a positive effect on you. If they love you, you can love yourself more.
Relationships
Every long-term relationship has moments of uncertainty and unpleasantness. It’s human nature. But if you’ve been unhappy for a while, you might want to think about addressing those issues. Every relationship
needs maintenance and work to continue to be successful. Counseling is often the best way for both of you to realise fully where the problems are. You can then be guided toward fixing them and becoming even more happy than before. Abusive relationships should be ended immediately. You deserve better than that.
Your Hormones
Those pesky hormones have a knack for tripping you up on your busiest days. Hormones can wreak havoc with
your moods as well as your body and your concentration. If yours are becoming more and more wayward, it’s worth speaking to your doctor about possible treatments. There are plenty of different hormone therapies that may be able to ease the effect of yours.
Dietary changes can sometimes help relieve hormone problems. They can also sometimes avoid the problems happening. Depending on what your concerns are, it could be worth addressing your diet. A nutritionist may be able to advise you further.
Kids
It’s true that our kids bring us the most delight and joy in the world. But there are times when their immaturity can lead to them saying and doing quite hurtful things. Kids’ behavior can occasionally be so difficult to handle that you become down about it. You can end up blaming yourself, and even question your parenting skills. This is normal, but you don’t have to suffer it in silence. Speak to family counselors as a group. You can also spend some time with your child and try to talk about each of your feelings.
Life will always be challenging. After all, it makes us cherish the good times so much more. Enjoy every day.
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This post is submitted on The Coffee Chic.
