April 28, 2012
Why Couples Need to Fight
Love quarrels and fights are essential in a relationship. Sometimes, it is good for couples to express their emotions about being hurt, angry and sad. When they fight, it doesn’t mean that they no longer feel the same love they felt when the relationship was still new and flourishing. It may sound weird but for some, it is a way of getting close to one another.
Some of you may disagree with this while others may completely understand. Well, what I’m trying to say is that these things make a certain relationship healthy.
Couples who do not fight and settle some issues will never end up happy. Ignoring the problems will only worsen the situation. Therefore, there is a high tendency that these used-to-be loving couples will end up breaking the sweet bond that they promised to hold on to no matter what happens.
If you feel any remorse for your partner, make sure to express what you truly feel. However, you should learn how to determine the right place and time to let all your emotions out. Keep in mind that you can still fight in a nice way. There is no need to shout or to belittle your partner.
Always remember that respect, aside from love, is one of the most important things in a relationship. Never speak of words that will hurt your loved one. Never do any action that will make him or her despise you. Fight without causing any pain to the other person. As much as possible, do not shout whatever you wish to say. Keep yourself composed at all times. Most importantly, learn how to listen. When you have shared your point, let your partner speak his or her side.
You should also learn how to apologize. Say sorry even if it is not your fault. Make yourself available to your partner so that he or she may begin to open up and talk to you nicely. After every fight, I guarantee that your relationship will become better and brighter.
Do you also think of the same way? The next article will be about the different reasons why couples fight.
This is such an enlightening post. Keep it coming Gene…
Have a blessed Sunday!
I definitely agree with what you said
This is true and this is what works with me and my husband. I totally agree with you sis!
LQ and misunderstanding is a part of relationship but not an essential.
Two unique person eh impossible na hindi mag-clash. Love, respect and papasakop ng babae sa matinong lalake ang dapat laging gawin. =)
Hehe. on my view lng nmn 🙂
In a sense, even though a couple is in a relationship they are sometimes fighting to stay independent and not be perceived as vulnerable in fear that the other person will take advantage of that. This usually happens as we get older. (i'm 34, the BF is 39) both of us have never been married or had kids yet so I'm sure we really don't know what its like to "share" or fight fairly because we're not infront of any kids. We both have our times where it's obvious to say that neither of us have some ways in which we feel we shouldn't have to change.
Isn't it possible to settle issues without fighting? There are always going to be misunderstandings and hurt feelings, but why does it have to escalate?