Coffee and Conversations: Brewing Life Stories, One Post at a Time
All of my friends know that I’m the type of person who enjoys my own company every single time. There is something beautiful about going to coffee shops or dining out alone. For other people, it may seem that it’s such a lonely thing to do.
However, once you get accustomed to the wonderful feeling of having solitude, it is actually a gift that you can give to yourself every once in a while.
Don’t get me wrong. I’m not a loner. In fact, I’m the type of person who also loves attending parties or even organizing gatherings for my friends. I also enjoy being surrounded by people close to my heart and doing things together with them.
BUT there are just days when I want to do things on my own. The only bad thing about it is that I get too independent to the point that I don’t know how to make people feel that I need them. Let’s face it — this is a problem because many people want to feel needed and wanted. In my case, it’s kind of challenging to get it from me.
The truth is this — I know I can stand on my own, so I have no patience in dealing with problematic people or relationships. When I feel that someone is toxic or something is giving me a hard time, my usual reaction is to just leave. I know it’s bad because people should be patient enough to work things out and settle their differences. Well, I’m not the type of person who cuts ties right away, but I make sure that I do not
The point of this article to remind everyone that IT IS OKAY TO BE ALONE AND ENJOY YOUR OWN COMPANY. There is nothing wrong with feeling confident and comfortable about doing things without other people. I know that no man is an island, so there will always come a time when you have to connect with others and enjoy each other’s togetherness. However, you must not also forget the importance of giving yourself a chance to enjoy your solitude. That is something that only you can give to yourself.
When you are alone, you become more aware of yourself. As such, it gives you an opportunity to think about who you are, how far you’ve come, and what you should do. Aside from these, it will also make you feel empowered in such a way that you know that whatever happens, and regardless of how many people will come and go in your life, you are not going to be afraid. You will feel that you can survive on your own — that you can thrive whatever will come your way. Realizing all these things will make you feel more in control of your life. It will set you free from being concerned about what others might do or say. Remember, at the end of the day, all you got is yourself.
Did you know that a lot of blog posts on this site have been written while I was in a coffee shop?
If you check my Archives, you will see that there is even a category for “Thoughts.” It’s weird, but whenever I sit in cafes and enjoy my coffee, my thoughts about different stuff just flows. As such, I have decided to create a Blog Series here at The Coffee Chic. I’m gonna call it Thoughts Over Coffee.
Click here to view all entries under this series.